3 Reasons Your Child Wets the Bed
As a manufacturer of a night toilet training potty, it is unsurprising to hear that I have night toilet training conversations with parents every single day.
I have my own children, one of whom is just day and night toilet trained. Equally, when founding LumiPotti we did research, ran user trials and asked hundreds of people to share their experiences. In all this chatter, research and experience there have been 3 common reasons a child still wets at night;
Age and Wet Nights;
The age of toilet training is on the up. It used to be 18months-2 years and is now 2.5 to 3.5 years old. What changed?
For one, our society prefers a more child-led approach to parenting. Secondly, more mums work now than in the 1950’s and this has impacted the time we have to focus on our children. But chiefly, the reason toilet training is different is because disposable nappies make children AND parents comfortable. In actuality, the only thing that hasn’t changed is the children.
1 – Early Starters. Your child may be too young and simply doesn’t have the bladder control.
Control can be learnt, but you will have to be one cool, calm, praise-giving parent to see it through the wet beds if you start too early. It can also be rather demotivating for your child. Try for a week and then leave it for a month and come back to it. But don’t leave it too long or…
2 – Missed the Window. Your child has learnt to rely on nappies.
On these hallowed (haloed) LumiPotti pages I often talk about the night training window. This is the time when your child is day dry and is primed, poised, ready for night. You have spent days/weeks alerting them to their bladder and in return, they have learnt to listen to it. It is at this point that many children will be most successfully night trained. Miss the window and the child simply stops listening to their bladder and starts to rely once again on the night nappy.
Commitment and Wet Nights;
How long does it take to learn something new? I read somewhere it takes 30 days to break a habit, so at best it takes 30 days to form one. One of the most common things I hear from parents is that their child was still wetting so they put them back in night nappies. When pressed on how long they tried for…? 3 nights, is the most common response. 3 nights. What could you learn to do in 3 nights? Could you adjust to loss of comfort your nappy gives and learn to toilet in the dark?
1 – Expectations. Often we parents have rather unrealistic expectations of our children.
We can be intolerant of the time it takes to achieve night dryness instead of wanting more from your child, expect less of them and more of yourself. Be more reasonable with the goals, give your child the time and don’t turn back after 3 wet beds.
2 – Commit and Persist. Nothing is easy when it comes to getting up at night.
Your child won’t be too happy about it either. Be committed to the task of night toilet training and teach your child persistence pays off. They will get there but as they are trying, make it fun for them to work towards dry nights. Use rewards and praise but also don’t forget to make it easy for them to get up at night. They must be able to rise to toilet. They must be able to see to toilet and they must feel safe doing it.
Bed Wetting and Wet Nights;
What is bed wetting? I have heard this phrase used to describe a single wet accident, a few in a row and regular, wet beds. Bed wetting is really a persistent and almost nightly wetting of the bed.
1 – Wet nights. This is what most children have when night toilet training.
It is part of the process and you need to just accept it. To determine if its wet nights or bed wetting for your child, you need to take the nappies off and leave them off to avoid confusing messages, then monitor the night training over 2 to 3 weeks.
2 – Bed Wetting. We know that boys are more likely to bed wet than girls.
We know it’s involuntary. We know that most children grow out of it. There are lots of reasons for it from bladder size, urinary infection, stress, lack of the hormone vasopressin and so on.
There are lots of things to try to help; drinking more in the daytime, stopping drinks 1 hour before bed. Reducing volume of sugary drinks, bladder training to increase bladder size or even medicines to help.
If you think your child may be bed wetting try ERIC for advice.
Got a different reason for wet nights? I’d love to hear it (says she, challenge made) because I reckon I’ve heard ’em all by now…